Saturday's with Steph-Louis Jadot 2013 Puilly-Fusse

When I was little, my family sat down for dinner every night at 6pm sharp. My brother and I would come home after school every day and play outside until my dad got home from work around 4:30. We lived on a quiet cul-de-sac filled with bikes and kids. In the winters, the parking lot behind our house would plow all of the snow into a monstrous mountain. RJ and I would gear up with our shovels and work all afternoon digging out our famous snow mansions, which included our own rooms, balconies, and of course my purple blow up furniture to top it off. We would work all day on these masterpieces until my mom called us in.  Our runny noses and frozen fingers would just make it for 6 o'clock dinner.  We would hold hands for prayer and share a warm meal as a family.

With three years age difference, RJ and I are the youngest of 5 with a large gap between the older siblings. This caused us to develop an unbreakable bond. When we were finally old enough to ride our bikes to the park alone, my sisters were away in college and my oldest brother was following a band around the country. When we snuck out of the house for the first time together, the other siblings were just past the age of thinking we would be cool for doing so. It took years to find a commonplace and fuse the gap. Eventually there was a sweet spot of time where we all had something to say, the common interests became mutual, and beautiful unique friendships formed between the five of us.

Almost every Sunday, my family gets together for food and wine. Whether it be a new gourmet experiment, or pizza bagels, we all bring something to share and gather around. Without having any strong cultural ties, we all love to cook different cuisines all the time. Food has become our common ground.  What goes better with good food than great wine and the company of loved ones? No matter what happens throughout the week, I look forward to spending Sunday with my tribe.  It feeds the soul and warms the heart.

“Food brings people together on many different levels. It’s nourishment of the soul and body. It is truly love.” Author Unknown

Louis Jadot 2013 Puilly-Fusse

This week my sister and I shared a bottle of 2013 Louis Jadot Puilly-Fusse. This wine is a mouthful of ripe fruit flavors, followed by a fresh crisp finish. One part of the wine is fermented in vats and the other in oak barrels, giving the wine that bright fruitiness with a good structure. I paired it with a sweet maple salmon dish and felt that the crisp finish of the wine balanced out the sweet syrupy fish very well. It’s all about balance! Overall, this french chardonnay is a wonderful addition to any seafood dish and will perfectly compliment your at-home date night. Enjoy!

The yummy salmon recipe:   allrecipes.com/recipe/51283/maple-salmon/

HAWKES WINERY

There are some people you just connect with.  Some people when you walk in the door you know that the vibe and aura are just going to be a part of you.  This is so true of Hawkes Winery.  (You can also check out their wine tasting room in Sonoma, CA.)  Every time we go to Sonoma - HAWKES is a must.. but when we are doing a Date Night at home... we have them- and the many memories they've provided-with us!!

Hawkes Winery was one of the best discoveries we made in all of our wine travels years ago.  Some wineries have killer wine.  Some wineries have spectacular views.  Some a contagious vibe. Many miss the mark on one of these.  Then there is Hawkes Winery...It all makes you want to HOLLA for joy and give God HIGH FIVES!! (The fact that Jimtown Store  is right next door adds to the coolness element.)

Allow me to set the stage for a minute.  First of all Alexander Valley is BEAUTIFUL... Vineyards surround you, the roads wind through them and the air just feels and smells different.  It's wine country and there is no other country quite like it.  On any given afternoon (we always go to Hawkes in the afternoon for one specific reason) when we arrive.... we park next door!!  We love HAWKES but we have to get our Jimtown Store fix first...  Think gourmet deli meets upscale cracker barrel (just because the ladies can shop the eclectic finds- YES PLEASE). Holy utter goodness with a funky old school vibe.  Carrie Brown, the owner will be seen sporting funky black school girl glasses serving wine when the lines get long- and they will because it's a treasured spot!  Imagine (without drooling) juicy pulled pork with buttermilk slaw and spicy mayo on a homemade bun.  Every salavary gland is begging for more. Seriously there is no sharing here it's too good!  Their curried chicken salad is to die for!!  And those are just two- everything here is crazy delicious and down home fun!  One of their best features is that it's right next door to our beloved HAWKES WINERY.

Like I said it's the whole package and personally for me the PEOPLE of Hawkes sell the story and subsequently the wine (kind of a win/win in my book).  If you ever have the pleasure of meeting Stephen or Jake Hawkes you will know right away that not only did you come to an authentic spot- they are just good folk.  

Did I mention they make killer wines-yes please!  We love Hawkes wine because the acidity balance in all of their wines makes them pair beautifully with food!! (Being the silly foodies we are we can't get enough of them.) Let's talk about a few of our favorites (darn it my guy had to open some up on our at home date again- staying home for Hawkes is well worth it!)

Like I said, they make terrific wine, and one of our favorites is their Chardonnay.  The 2013 Home Chardonnay is excellent.  Its filled with crisp pear and white peach.  The stones creek minerality (my hubby's formal description) is aggressive on the nose but completely calms down in your mouth which makes it excellent for a fish dish or a frito mist- it's so balanced and clean.  We enjoyed it thoroughly! 

We just tasted RW 2010 Cabernet- or Red Winery Road Cabernet...This single vineyard Cab is D E L I S H!!  The tannins appear to be a little rougher, which my guy and I appreciate.  The nose is quite nice!!  You get a soft spice that is consistent with the palate feel.  It had hints of anise and tart cherry with a finish of cinnamon and mocha.  OH MY GOODNESS KNOCK YOUR SOCKS OFF!!  Pair this wine with a simple flank steak, roast beef or even a backyard burger and you are in for a real treat!!! (On a side note this wine could 'lay down' for a long time and just keep getting better!!)

Wine Country is like Gods Country and the Hawkes Family are his people.  They are great folk that care deeply for the quality of wine they produce.  It shows through in every bottle.  These wines have helped us create a lifetime of memories with family and great friends... and we have a life time more that will be... but for now we are going to sit back and enjoy another date night at home sipping on our romantic red- pretending we are taking in the crisp evening air of Sonoma County at Hawkes Winery.

Expectations

I think that being a Cubs Fan (I wear it proudly) has taught me some really good lessons in life.  It has taught me a lot about my own EXPECTATIONS...I'm always elated when they win.  I'm never too disappointed when they loose....This COULD BE their year (no really- it could be)... but there's always Next Year!!  Seriously- If only I could apply that hopeful vibe throughout my life I would be ON IT- and I wouldn't be dissatisfied or place my own unrealistic expectations on any relationship including the one with myself! 

EXPECTATIONS- UGH that word hits me at the core every time.  I walk out in my backyard daily expecting to see a vineyard- I'm disappointed everyday (KIDDING).  Reality check really quickly-think about any of your failed, tumultuous or just difficult relationships.  What is one thing that most, if not all, have in common?  I would bet money (I'm not a gambler, however, so maybe a glass of wine) on the fact that failed EXPECTATIONS rank pretty high up there.

After having a conversation with a very dear friend recently I seriously can't stop thinking about the fact that each relationship in my life that has caused my heart strife or anxiety has a common thread running straight down the middle of it- MY EXPECTATIONS WERE DIFFERENT THAN WHAT THEY WERE CAPABLE OF GIVING OR BEING-IN GENERAL.  Profound?  Probably not but incredibly real!

After some serious self evaluation I would say that most of the time I'm expecting people to behave the way I would in any given situation.... NEWS FLASH... They aren't me- and my seriously imperfect self doesn't live up to my own lofty expectations some times!  WHAT A HOT MESS!  

This couldn't be any truer in marriage!  Think about times when you get upset with your mate.  More times than not in my house its because my expectations weren't met.  He got home an hour later than I thought so we can't have our ever coveted Date Night. (Why can't we have Date Night?  Is there a rule we can't ingest food an hour later- its all in my head.)  Or he got home and he was on the phone so I can't have that conversation (AT THAT VERY MOMENT) that I was dying to have all day.  My own misguided expectations lead to unwarranted disappointment.  It is so hard to admit... but again...those things are all about ME- and what I wanted. That does not account for what his day was like or what he was doing at all... UGH again!

This is also true with our children.  When I think about the times I'm at my wits end with any one of them- it usually is because I was expecting them to be or do what I wanted them to be instead of WHO THEY ARE.  Thought about in these terms- I'm ashamed of myself for not just loving them in those moments for THE EXACT  perfect creations that God stitched together. They are all beautifully made- yet not ALWAYS celebrated because I'm placing unrealistic expectations on them.  The worst part of this is that I believe that sometimes when we want things for our children it doesn't just come from a place of love at all- it comes from a place of pride.  We place false expectations on their grades, sports, theater, whatever based on how we want others to perceive us- not necessarily just for the benefit of our kids themselves.  We want others to know just how amazing our kids are because we think it's a direct reflection on our parenting skills.  I think we've missed our mark.

OUCH- that hits hard.  I do believe that if we are consciously thinking about how we place misguided expectations on our loved ones and all people for that matter we are one step ahead of the game.  Of course not all expectations are bad- each one of us has core standards that we absolutely don't compromise- and that's a good thing.  Life is about choices.  Choosing to LOVE instead of to expect without cause, I believe, will give our hearts freedom to deeply care for others the way they need to be cared for-instead of how we want it to be. If we choose to see every being like the image of a beautiful sunrise we will have decided to love them for the complexity that they were created to be- and that each of us are.The craziest thing about this is that this actually takes the burden of disappointment off of our own hearts and provides us with limitless happiness.

Learn to love without condition. Talk without bad intention.  Give without any reason. And most of all, care for people without any expectation- Author Unknown.

Home

Always strive to give your spouse the very best of yourself; not what's leftover after you've given your best to everyone else.  Dave Willis

Oh how I used to love getting dressed up and going out to dinner with my guy. Who am I kidding- it's like my favorite thing to do.  Life gets busy, kids get older and sometimes getting out of the house is virtually impossible.  

It's no secret how important I think Date Nights are, however-so sometimes we have to improvise.  Keeping that candle burning bright takes constant effort.  It's so easy to let it dim-truthfully that takes no effort at all and can be the easier, not best, option.  Therefore getting creative is a 'must'.

In our house, my moods, if charted, would directly correlate with the frequency in which I get out with my guy and have a real conversation.  That's me- a big Date Night snob- and quality time is, as I've said before, one of my love languages-so it's a requirement not an option.

So what do we do when we can't get out of the house- besides pout?  I mix it up.  I'm not afraid to break out the china, crystal, or paper plates- kind of a chameleon like that.  (Maybe I'll use them all at the same time.)  Back on track...I believe that it doesn't matter where you go, how expensive it is, or what you are doing- it's the quality time that counts.  Carving out time for them, and them alone, shows them that you value them and your time with them.  I don't care if you've been married for 7 days, 7 years, 17 years or 70 years- I'm here to tell you that the need to be valued and show value to your spouse doesn't go away.

I set the table, light the candles, make a meal, or place carry out on our plates.  (After all who wants to cook on date night?)  We 'pretend' (or maybe we don't) that we are out to dinner. (THE KIDS ARE NOT ALLOWED DOWNSTAIRS-there may or may not be threats involved.)  Doing things like this creates a tone.  First of all one of romance, but secondly (and equally as important) it tells your spouse that you appreciate the quality time that you get with them and you will protect and create it at all costs.

At the end of the proverbial day, it doesn't matter what you do or where you are (grocery shopping could still be considered a sort of date-but don't tell my guy that) what matters is the quality time spent with your mate.  Yes, I love to get dressed up and go out to dinner, but circumstances dictate otherwise sometimes- so I get dressed up and we stay home.  It's where the heart is-so I've been told-and it can be just as fun and romantic as a night out on the town- even more so actually (WINK WINK).

My Human

In this life we meet all kinds of different people.  Some walk into our lives, some walk out of our lives....some make an imprint and others just a brush stroke.  All add value...even if it's negative value.. it's value.  What I've learned over the years is you never know when you may end up being someone else's human-so you should always try.

A quick story... I believe in authenticity.  Who's going to tell you they don't?  The problem is people don't always follow through.  Sadly,  I've been guilty of this many times over.  When I was a child my parents got divorced.  I know that many people have become desensitized to divorce but when you're in it- it's utterly painful.  Not only that but it changes EVERYTHING. (Even when you think that you may want them to-at some point you end up wishing they didn't.)  During this time (as the child instead of the participants) you feel rather alone- you are forced into circumstances that were not of your choosing at all.  For me, I was 11 when the process started (that's just a stinky time anyway). Not only was my world around me crumbling but I was moved from the only school I had ever known to a new one where I had to make new friends (that's a big deal in and of itself). 

In this time, however, an unexpected someone made me feel special.  She and her husband were friends of my mom and dads.  She was obviously older than me.  She didn't have any kids of her own (YET).  She didn't have to befriend ME, BUT SHE DID.  (I could offer her NOTHING but a sad, awkward girl.) SHE WAS PRESENT.  She had me over after school.  She made May Day baskets with me.  SHE TALKED TO ME.  She invested her time in ME.....because she cared.  She was authentic.  She WAS that person that when the going got tough for the people around her.... SHE DIDN'T DISAPPEAR.  With open arms SHE WAS ENGAGED- embracing ME-and essentially my parents because they were new at navigating those waters as well.  

She taught me that when I say to people "Can I do anything for you," or "I'm here for you," or "I'm praying for you,"   I MEAN IT-I'M INTENTIONAL ABOUT IT- because someone meant it for me.  She was my human.  Although I have told her, sometimes I don't think she even realizes what she meant/means to me-because she was just being her authentic selfless self.  Her example, however, is a lesson to all of us.  It's not easy getting in the trenches, getting REAL,  and being there for someone whether it be good times or bad... but you never know what that person is walking through (OR IN- FOR THAT MATTER).  You never know if you are going to be that person that imprinted on someone so deeply that they just want to be to others what you were to them.  You never know if taking the time to listen to what someone says and investing in their life will make all the difference in the world to them.  You never know if you will be THEIR HUMAN.  I want to live to be someones HUMAN- just like she was to me.  Her authenticity in a really difficult time made me understand that saying you love someone means far less than showing them you love them by walking through the valley holding their hand.  YOU ARE THIER HUMAN.

Sataurday's With Steph-2011 Sada “Baldoro" IGT Toscana

One of the best decisions I have ever made for myself (if not THE best) was to spend a semester of college traveling Europe. I had discussed the idea with my family in passing but it never struck me as a real possibility. At the time I was in a bad relationship, lacking confidence, and just feeling very stuck in a negative place. If you are, or have ever been a 20 something year old woman, you know this is not an uncommon feeling. It took a huge push from my family to leave my “comfort zone” and take the plunge. I agreed to the trip less than a month before leaving, so the weeks leading up were filled with chaos trying to get everything ready (typical Stephanie fashion). It didn’t hit me until I actually got on the plane that 1. I was going to live in Rome for 3+ months not knowing anything about the city.. and 2. I was going ALONE, not knowing a single soul.

The thought of traveling alone can be seriously scary! However, it is truly the BEST way to find appreciation for the world, for the beautiful people in it, and for yourself. To be completely lost in a foreign land forces you to become aware of how much beauty is right in front of you. It also forces you to trust yourself and literally follow your heart.  After the first couple weeks in Rome, I finally looked up from my map and fell in love.. with EVERYTHING. I learned to put my phone down, be vulnerable, and fully embrace new experiences and relationships. In turn, I gained some of the most pure and real friendships and memories thus far. If you can do one thing for yourself, travel without a plan. Get rid of your safety net, whether it be a schedule, a cell phone, or a group of people. Take a risk on YOU. Trust in yourself, broaden your horizons and add some color to your beautiful canvas.

Alright let’s talk WINE!

One of my favorite things to do on weeknights in Rome was walk down the inner streets and stop at random restaurants and cafes along the way. I typically started the day with a warm, buttery pastry and cappuccino and ended it with a glass of table wine (or 3) and fresh pasta. There is a hierarchy of Italian wines, classified by the particular area of which it is from and specific restrictions in said areas. The categories range from Vini, which is basic table wine, to Vini DOP, or wines with Protected Designation of Origin.

2011 Sada “Baldoro"  IGT Toscana

This week I decided to feature an Italian IGT (Wines with Protected Geographical Indication). IGT is one step above a basic table wine. This particular wine is a blend of Cabernet Sauvignon, Montepulciano, and Alicante. With very fruity aromas, I tasted a lot of cherry and juicy black berry flavors, followed by a lingering spicy finish. I suggest opening this bottle and letting it sit for about an hour before drinking. The longer I let this wine sit and open up, the more I loved it. It softened on the palate and that black pepper spice was able to shine through with time. Whether you drink it with some homemade italian cuisine, or bring it to your favorite BYOB restaurant, this is a great pairing for any traditional italian meal.  Ciao!

Perspective

Isn't it crazy that each person we know brings with them different experiences, feelings and personalities that contribute to their/ our entire perspective on life.  No two people are exactly same- that's incredibly beautiful (and terrifying)!!  What is even more perplexing to me is that more times that not the mate-and at least one of our kids (if you have multiple)  tends to be on the other side of the spectrum from us!  YIKES!

3:59AM- what do you think about?  For whatever reason that's the time I wake up EVERY morning and instead of being bummed- I'm elated that I slept through the night!  My husband on the other hand would be completely bummed that it was 3:59AM.  Our perspectives on life- how we look at everything tends to be totally different.

What's worse is that all of those qualities that are so different than mine are what attracted me to my guy in the beginning.  He was fun, funny, spontaneous, exciting, and of course brilliant.  ALL THINGS I'M NOT!!  Before you get the idea that I'm going to negative town... (I was thinking about it- kidding)-THESE ARE ALL THINGS I STILL LOVE ABOUT HIM TODAY.  One of my children is EXACTLY like him and I could eat him up (not literally) because I see his younger dad in him- it's beautiful.  My guess is that you're pretty similar.... things that you aren't your spouse is and vice versa.  

(Where's the BUT in all this?)  Well just because I love these things doesn't mean I always understand them fully!!  I'm not him and he's certainly not me (my gypsy, smiley self annoys the crud out of him at times).  I know that this is human nature but I'm concerned and have witnessed that what draws people to each other can also pull them apart.  Like I said, most of us are drawn to what we are not.  

If you think about the things you argue about- if you really get to the root of the problem- a lot of it boils down to them being them, you being you, and neither one understanding each others perspective!  Even though I know this I'm GUILTY AS CHARGED. 

In life we are bound to hit hard times.  Nobody wants them.  Nobody wishes for them.  They are very hard to plan for.... but they will come.  A lot of the times the biggest problem isn't the challenges you are facing.. it's that you both deal with things differently.  Leaning in and trying to think from your mates perspective at these challenging and overwhelming moments can make all the difference in the world.  Truthfully it's one of the HARDEST things to do but it's necessary in the turbulent times. 

At the end of the day you and your mate were yolked together for a reason.  So when crud happens-who in the world would you rather get through it with?  Listening to their perspective and setting aside your own pride can make all the difference in the world (and praying a ton).  When life hands you lemons squeeze hard on your mates hand, make some kick butt lemonade and go on a date to remove the ugliness of whatever reality you're in. Reconnect and recommit to each other each day and you can surely weather any storm!

Mi Dia From Scratch- Grapevine, Texas

OH MY GOODNESS....it's so good it should be illegal (because we don't live close!!)  I'm not saying, but I'm just saying you should just plan a trip to visit Mi Dia From Scratch - or if you live in or around the Dallas area- GET THERE!  Chef Gabrielle DeLeon is the real deal-and just a cool dude.  In an area where Tex-Mex is almost exclusively on most menus, Mi Dia goes straight towards a true Mexcian influence and hit's the bullseye!  

We were looking for a great place- and a little day date (because we love day dates) while attending an awesome Convention outside of Dallas- SCORE. This place was ROCK SOLID- in fact we went back twice- you know that's good!

As always, we enjoyed our conversation with our waiter and we deferred to him and the server as to what we just had to get.  They killed it!!  My dude started with the Capital 3G margarita.  This drink had Tres Generaciones Anejo (super special tequila), Grand Marnier, lemon juice, agave nectar...knocked his socks off- in flavor not the other way!!  Later the waiter suggested a specialty cocktail they created called Hell Freezes Over.  It features chile infused silver tequila, agave, cucumber & basil in a chile pepper salt rimmed glass with a floating piece of dry ice to give this symphony of flavors a mystical appearance. SIMPLY SPECTACULAR.  

(Hell Freezes Over)

We then opted for the table side guacamole.. UHM let me just tell you that I used to only eat guacamole tacos- no protein (not smart, I know)- so I know a thing or two about guacamole- THIS IS THE BEST EVER. (In fact I think that they should make a FOOD TV show just about people challenging him to his guacamole-it's that good!)  Like if I could only eat guacamole one more time in my life.. I'm heading to Grapevine!!  This guac had bacon, jalepenos, onions, tomato paste, garlic (like you'll be sweating it the next day), tomato's... just amazing!!  

For our entrée's we chose a variety of Street Taco's (on two different days).  The first day I got the Sea Bass. Street Taco's are just fun! The sea bass had chile guajillo rub, pickled cabbage, avocado, chile morita remoulade, micro cilantro and was served on flour tortillas.  OH MY GOODNESS-the flavors were dancing in my mouth!  We also had the Duck Carnitas.  It is roasted duck, pickled onion, roasted poblanos, micro cilantro, chile morita served on flour tortillas.  My husband was doing the happy dance. The duck is tender and juicy coupled with a wonderful balance of spice... melt in your mouth-drip down your face- amazing!!  Our next choice was the Baja Shrimp Taco's.  We normally don't get fried things too often... when in Rome- or Texas- and that is what they recommend.. so we did!  Thank GOD!!  THEY WERE SO GOOD!!  The shrimp is a in Negra Modelo beer batter, served with pickled cabbage, avocado, micro cilantro & roasted jalapeño-lime salsa on a flour tortilla.  Can you say JACKPOT.  This taco was fabulous.  

We were full.  Chef DeLeon had other plans for us, however.  THANK THE HEAVENS.  He sent out homemade churros with warm cajeta in the middle.  The churro was sweet and crispy with an amazingly soft dough encompassing the cajeta.  I don't care how full we were... we savored every last bit of this delicious masterpiece!

Getting out of your comfort zone and exploring new things is what life is all about.  Asking people for advice-can open your eyes to new perspectives and options that may not have otherwise been revealed. (Hence the reason we always ask "If I were never to come here again what should I get.")  Dates in different places creates a respite to which your minds can go when you are going through the motions of everyday life.  I promise you we will reminisce about our amazing time and experience with the heavenly food of Mi Dia From Scratch.  Check this place out.  You will be glad you did!

Saturday's with Steph -DeLoach 2013 Chardonnay

Last week I celebrated my 24th birthday. Ty came down to join the party and we spent the weekend in Chicago surrounded by my favorite things; family & friends, great cocktails, wonderful food, and sunshine. On Saturday morning we cabbed down to Navy Pier for the Seadog Architecture Boat Tour. If you haven’t done this yet I would highly suggest making the trip. For roughly $30, you get to see some stunning city views, feel the cool summer breeze on your face, and get a little adrenaline rush if you choose the speed boat tour. WARNING—you may get splashed! The boat tour is a perfect budget friendly date that is bound to put you in a good mood.

WEEK 5 - De Loach 2013 Chardonnay (Heritage Reserve)

After a long, adventure-filled weekend, I was thrilled to get back into the routine of home cooked meals and movie nights withTy (I’m an old lady now at 24 ;) A friend of mine sent a BEAUTIFUL birthday gift from wine.com. (Don't you just love those friends that get you?)  I wasn’t familiar with this website until now, but I will undoubtedly be using it in the future. Between the red wrapping and the fun assortment of snacks and wine, it’s the perfect gift for an aspiring wino like myself.

One of the coolest things about a bottle of wine is the meal that goes with it.  Think fresh veggies, yummy pasta and a handsome man that made the whole thing.  This working girl is in love with the whole package!

One of the bottles I received was De Loach Vineyard’s 2013 California Chardonnay. I’m starting to find that as I am learning more about wine through this blog, I keep coming back to the word balance. De Loach does a nice job balancing crisp fruit flavors with a creamy, slightly oaky palate. I also noticed a mineral taste that “brightened up” the finish and kept this wine on the crisper side. (I had to google minerality in wine to make sure I wasn’t losing my mind, so if you are a beginner like me, don’t be discouraged!) I am learning the terminology as I go and attempting to use my big girl words.

Balance is key—in life, and in wine. De Loach’s Chardonnay provided a well balanced, bright, and crisp Chardonnay that complimented this week’s at home date night. 

Dream

A girl can dream...little girls are so good at this.  Many times their dreams start with big poofy dresses, high heeled shoes that click on the hardwood floor, maybe long nails that tap (I used to think it was so cool if my nails clicked on the typewriter- totally dating myself) and a lot of times some handsome prince swooping in and scooping her up- they want to be a princess AND believe they can be.  They get a little older and their dreams remain in the fairy tale but often it expands to prom queen (which could be a version of a fairy tale), athletics or even career.  Who said you had to have only one dream anyway- the dream police- don't think so!  

I don't know when it changes but I'm certain it does because too many adults are walking around exhausted, overworked and angry.  Too many people I know are just putting their time in because it's a paycheck- but they are miserable!  For most, they haven't even checked their hearts desire in years because they don't realize it has a desire anymore-they're just getting by.

When did we, as adults, loose the ability to dream?  When did we forget that inside each of us we are created for greatness?  Why do we fall in step and do what we've always done because that's what we're supposed to do? FEAR.

What if today someone told you you could do anything you wanted to do in life- you wouldn't fail?  (Oils and Grapevines are sounding really good about now.) What would you do?  Would you do what you are currently doing? Now this holds no scientific data- but my GUESS is that probably 10% of us are doing exactly what we would be doing.  If you're in that 10% that's awesome! If you are in that 10% working a ton does not feel the same as being overworked.  If you're in that 10% being tired does not feel like you are drained of any life.  If you are in that 10% you are not walking around angry and feeling like you need to complain about your job to anyone who will listen- you want to share yourself with the world.  YOU BELIEVE IN YOU! That DOES NOT mean that if you're in that 10% you're not working hard- you're probably working your butt off- but it feels differently when you are going after your dreams rather than selling out to societal notions of complacency and duty.  

A quick story  about dreams and passion.  I have some childhood friends that played a game  that they had gotten at Toys R Us when they were younger.  Something about that game sparked a passion in Chris Ruder and he decided to resurrect this game in 2008.  The game is called Spikeball (you must have it- crazy addicting, SO MUCH FUN and makes for heated family contests-PERFECT)!  To me it's like 4 square with maybe a volleyballish twist. Stupid FUN.  Anyway NOBODY knew what the heck this forgotten game was.  But HE (along with a few co-founders) WENT FOR IT.  Spikeball has been featured on Shark Tank (and he got a crazy good deal), it has been taken around the country and the world with tournaments and it's an official sport in some colleges.  How cool is that? It's in youth groups and backyard barbecues. We played it on Christmas Day!  The thing about it was it was an old, dusty, has-been kids game that is now, due to handwork, marketing genius and PASSION, exploding in sales!  It's about a DREAM!

In each of us lies passion and desire.  It's still there- you just have to dig deep and find it.  I believe with all my heart that God created all of us to do great things- but you have to stop the insanity of doing what you've always done getting the same result each time and do a DO OVER. (DO OVER is also a book by a fabulous guy named Jon Acuff.  I just attended an amazing conference with him.  I N S P I R I N G!)  If you're not dead you have time (thats a harsh reality but it's TRUTH) to unlock the amazing potential and passion within you.  Spark that fire that so desperately needs some oxygen so that it can blaze out of control.  This world craves (and doesn't even know it) dreamers and leaders that will RISK everything to be WHO they were always INTENDED to be.  That's YOU!!  NO dream is too big.  Your dream and your path are determined by you.  I challenge you to unlock and unleash it- you will be amazed at the greatness awaiting you!

Ruxbin-Noble Square, Chicago

Ecclectic and funky, Fun and fabulous.  Quaint and cool.  Earthy and warm.  This place... a perfect date night.  First of all I'm tired of stuffy and pretentious.  I want inviting, imaginative   and delicious.  Ruxbin is SPOT ON!

This cute place is tucked into the Noble Square Neighborhood in Chicago-west of the city in a relatively quiet neighborhood- LOVE IT!! The outside has cascading flowers and just this cool vibe- it's calling you in!! 

The inside... you guys.. seriously this place has lights made out of old desks!! It's just cool!!  I love the atmosphere in here...earthy and warm with a bit of gypsy heaven.. yep I may stay!!!  It only has 32 tables- so it's definitely intimate and cozy but completely approachable!!  

Next- can you say B.Y.O.B?  Yeah, like who doesn't love enjoying a cold bottle of Hanzel Chardonnay- with your appetizer course- SCORE!!  Ok the Chardonnay we brought was pretty killer- in my book- but let's face it- BYOB equals saving money- this girl is all about that!!

The eats.. my goodness... as my husband would say- it just blew your skirt up!!  We started with the Fois Gras... of course we did.  It's how we do.  Anyway I'm not one for much fruit in my dishes and this had candied rhubarb with it (to be honest I was a bit worried I'd like it) and some hazelnut granola. Boy was I wrong!  Holy deliciousness!!!  Did I mention the phenomenal hazelnut granola? GET IN MY MOUTH!!

For the main course we had venison and halibut. First of all I love fish and this Halibut did not disappoint!  It was recommended by our lovely server.  (Remember the question:  If I never come back what should I get~~ she nailed it.)  The fish just melted in your mouth and the kimchi bacon tarragon broth was to die for! Those three flavors were delicately infused together in such a way that I wanted to lick the plate clean.  I'm a lady so I refrained this time.    THE VENISION- ok I know it scares some people- but this dish lit up every taste bud in your mouth!! It was that good!! The tenderness of the meat was accentuated with a bit of cauliflower puree and pomegranate duck jus... hello yumminess!!  

Now, normally you wouldn't comment on a restaurants bathroom situation. However this bathroom (on the outside) adds to the restaurants funk!  It's basically set in a revolving door that you would go through to enter some sort of speakeasy... so fun and outside the box- I love it!

You must do this. For a cozy, fun, funky date night- this is your place.  Bring your favorite bottle of wine or craft beer and get to enjoying the goodness!  First of all the food is outstanding and the ambiance just lends itself to - I want to stay forever!!  This date night was rock solid and a for sure must do!  Ruxbin has it all going on-such a great place to reconnect and romance each other!

A MESSY FAIRY TALE

A perfect marriage is just two imperfect people that refuse to give up on each other.            Author Unknown.

With our 17th wedding anniversary waiting ever so patiently in the wings- I've been thinking a lot about life.  It has been far from perfect yet perfectly ours.  Much of the time I don't know where I begin and where he ends.  That's the funny thing about marriage- you intertwine with another human in such a delicate way that although we have two hearts, two brains etc... you truly do become one imperfect creation together.

We may be functioning, living creatures that EXISTS on our own, but our goals and are passions, our hurts and failures have been meshed so closely that to choose who's him and who's me would be impossible. There are no two other people on this earth that love our children like he and I do.  Although they certainly are not why we fell in love (I mean him chasing me for a year really helped out with that) they are our shared joy and the reasons we wake up in the morning.  

When we started out there were stars and fireworks everywhere (or cockroaches and stinky alleyways behind fraternities) everything seemed exciting and all that mattered was each other. The ring came, the jobs came, the wedding and baby #1 came- and still this blissful existence, although more centered around reality (and not when to go to Willy's) fit loosely into the Fairy Tale that my mind created.  

We added more babies and more life stress-things got complicated- and the Fairy Tale that my mind created changed.  Did you notice I didn't say it didn't exist?  It just changed.  I think we as people get so hung up on what we think things need to look like and what we feel our life should be we forget to hold on and bathe ourselves in the presently perfect moments we are in.   BE STILL.

I know that it's hard to not feel like life should be some sort of perfect Fairy Tale- built on abundant love, wealth beyond all imagination and grape vines surrounding you (sorry that was just my Fairy Tale-ha)- The true Fairy Tale lies in the unruly and sticky parts of life.  The realness of life is the Fairy Tale- when you go to sleep and wake up to that commitment that is unwavering no matter what your heated discussion was about the night before.  The Fairy Tale is communicating and showing grace in the tough moments because at the end of the day that marriage is going to survive whatever this fallen world throws at you.  The Fairy Tale is KNOWING that you are as imperfect as that person laying next to you-and being grateful that they can love you in all your flaws.  

A few years ago I had a friend that lost her husband- I think about her OFTEN- what she wouldn't give to have the toilet seat up, the underwear on the floor, the yard not mowed on her schedule, the grouchy comment,  being 20 minutes late for dinner or whatever.  We all have our 'stuff' that drives us crazy- I KNOW she would take the crazy back in a heartbeat.   Her story reminds me that even in tough times you must recognize your own imperfections and love them for theirs- because this life is short!!  

Life is messy and busy and real.  It's also exciting and beautiful and FUN!!  Having someone to share it with, whether it be a spouse or really great friend or BOTH is one of GODS GREATEST GIFTS- LOVING RELATIONSHIPS.  On this our Anniversary (almost) I celebrate my sloppy and disheveled Fairy Tale that reminds me not to take life too seriously and enjoy the beautiful moments between the chaotic margins! Once again date night is a great way to absorb the messiness in life and restore the fireworks and stars (or cockroaches and stinky alleyways- whatever your thing is- it's YOUR FAIRY TALE.)

Thomas George Estates

Everyone who lived in high up, magical places must feel the same way.  You come down into the world and you mingle, but all the while theres something calling you back.  Arjum Hasam

There is a vortex (i.e. WINE-just kidding-again me being silly)  always pulling me back to my magical place (only it's not mine-dang it).  I come back to reality and live amongst my folk but part of me remains in Sonoma County, California and specifically at Thomas George Estates.    Let's go back to Westside Road, just outside of Healdsburg, Ca  (a little slice of heaven) and take a peak.  

The wine is obviously something pretty special- and I'll certainly get to that but the view and the property are something straight out of another world- a divine creation. (Having traveled in Italy I can tell you for certain that this area of Sonoma County is an equal comparison- the beauty is transcendent.)  On a side note I personally believe that part of the mystical romance a bottle of wine can have is as much to do with your connection to the place as the creation in the bottle-my opinion not fact. Everyone has that place where life seems to be better just because you are there, your worries and your problems seem minuscule- this is my place. 

Sharing this with my mate has created some of the most special times in our marriage- but we have also shared it with family and special friends.  Bringing people to Thomas George, for us, is like sharing a part of us with the people we love the most, you feel vulnerable and excited because you want them to LOVE it as much as you do-BINGO-TGE has never disappointed!

In the morning the fog flirts with the vines in such a sensual way that the hair on the back of your neck stands straight up.  The beauty that surrounds you is heaven sent- in this place I feel Gods abundant blessings more than almost anywhere on earth (and this is before I start consuming the wine- so it's not the wine talking).

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As you enter the heavy iron gates your eyes gaze up the ascending drive to the beauty that awaits.  Pack your picnic because the rich charm and earthy aromas around you will capture your heart. The broken rooster may even treat you to one of its awkward squeaks (inside joke but it adds to the blissful vibe). You're going to need to stay awhile.  (At this point- especially if it's warm- I highly recommend you heading inside and purchasing the 2014 Rosé of Pinot Noir.  They make some of the best Rosé's out there and this one is delicious.)  This wine will make your picnic complete and you can get your tasting started off on a beautiful foot!  

The cave, oh the cave... Seriously  I've been in some fantastic caves- this one is something special.  One of the killer parts about TGE is that you get to do your actual tasting in the cave- how sweet is that?   It's amazingly classy and sophisticated coupled with an anitquey (that word is official) coolness -its just down right boss (my son tells me that means cool- so I'm going with it)!!  MY PLACE! 

Thomas George has a wide variety of crazy good wine, their Chardonnay's and Pinot's  however are magnificent.  Have you ever had a concrete Chardonnay?  Uhm hello wonderful!  For centuries European wine makers have been using this technique and Thomas George was one of the first to bring it to Sonoma County.  The 2012 Estate Chardonnay, Concrete Russian River is spectacular!  Without boring you too much (because seriously you just have to try it's complete goodness) by fermenting in concrete and not oak (which I usually lean towards) it tends to be very aromatic and fruit forward......and delicious! I love it because although it's crisp and bright, there is a subtle nutty flavor that settles it down-LOVE!! My next top choice (except honestly they are all stupid good-that's official wine lingo) would be the 2012  Baker Ridge Chardonnay.  Named after the owners, the Baker Ridge Vineyard, in my opinion produces some of the best fruit on Westside Road- this Chardonnay is full of crisp apple flavors but also provides a soft creamy finish.  It's brilliant golden color is sure to be a crowd pleaser!!

Let's briefly talk Pinot's- only because well I love them!!  (Their other varietals Viognier, Syrah, Zin and Pinot Blanc are all fantastic as well!)  I'm giving high fives to the 2011 Estate Vineyard Baker Ridge Pinot... maybe it's the oil lover in me, but there are hints of lavender and rhubarb.  It's finished off with a slight tobacco flavor that I seriously enjoy in my pinot's.  For me a little bit of dusty funk and I'm all in!

TGE has afforded us a plethora of memories with so many special people, as well as with each other.  We are constantly called back to this place we love.  The wine has captured our heart but the place has imprinted on our souls.  In the evening, here on Westside Road, as the sun sets on the quiet vineyard floor we sip our velvety red and thank God for places that we can occasionally call home-even if for just a date vacation-check them out-just don't stay too long- I'll be back to My Magical Place!

Saturday's with Steph- Villa Sandi Prosecco Rose

“There are these two young fish swimming along and they happen to meet an older fish swimming the other way, who nods at them and says "Morning, boys. How's the water?" And the two young fish swim on for a bit, and then eventually one of them looks over at the other and goes "What the hell is water?””

This is the beginning of a speech I listened to this week called This is Water. In this speech, David Foster Wallace addresses the subject of value; more specifically, where do you place your value? As humans, we are taught by society that if we set up an ultimate destination in life, and make it there, we will find happiness. The problem with this is that so many of us will never reach that destination. If we measure our value by money, we will never be rich enough. If we measure it by beauty, we will never be tall, or thin, or pretty enough. If we measure our value by success, we will never be powerful enough. The list goes on.

I feel that so many people, including myself, get caught up in this ultimate goal, meanwhile forgetting to BE PRESENT. I constantly have to remind myself to stop and feel the “water” around me. Challenge yourself to really live out each day rather than always trying to get to your destination. Oh, and keep a bottle of champagne around the house when you feel like celebrating a good day.

WEEK 4 — Villa Sandi Prosecco Rose

This week I went on a girlfriend date to GT Oyster Bar, which EB has featured in the past.  This place is amazing! I highly recommend checking it out. (they have a half price oyster happy hour too.. SCORE!) It’s a great place to go with friends because they really encourage sharing and their knowledge about their dishes really created a complete package! I am not very familiar with Prosecco, and I rarely order it at a restaurant, but  I wanted to try something different and fun. Villa Sandi knocked it out of the park!  This bubbly was FUN! The golden pink color matched the floral finish of this sparkling wine. It was a perfect wine to kick of girls night out.  This may sound silly but this special bottle promoted great conversation and made for a special time-girls night date night!

Quality Time

Long ago I read a book, that I've recommended numerous times over, called The Five Love Languages, by Gary Chapman.  This book made such an impression on me because it identified 5 expressions of love that people portray. We are all different so it stands to reason that a lot of the time our personal expressions of love are not our spouses....SHOCKER:)!!  The five expressions are Quality Time, Physical Touch, Acts of Service, Receiving Gifts, and Words of Affirmation. (Wonder if you can guess which one most of the guys I know are?)  I've found that I'm much better at finding the value of and putting effort into the gifts that are part of my Love Language:  Quality Time and Physical Touch.

This needy lady is all about Quality Time  (my husband is rolling his eyes about now).  SO anywhooo..when I was a child I remember my mom and dad (before they got divorced) telling me that the next day they were taking me out of school to do something special. I kept guessing and guessing as to what it could be-they were not budging.  The anticipation on the drive was almost more than I could handle. At the time I had one other sibling and I couldn't believe that I was going somewhere ALONE with my parents- seriously how cool was that!  They pulled up to the most spectacular site I had EVER seen (think slow mo fireworks exploding in my head)..on the corner of Clark and Addison I stood looking up at the home of the Chicago Cubs. I will never forget that moment.  I was going to get to see Ryne Sandberg on second base!! That day is imprinted deeply in my heart. I spent time alone with both of my parents.  I felt so special.  (Seeing Ryne didn't hurt either!!)

Years later we brought our kids to Wrigley- we saw a concert not a ball game- but we got to touch the Ivy.  Even at the time I told my guy that I thought this was a rite of passage.  Maybe that will be their moment.

We need alone time with our spouse to nourish and strengthen our relationship with them, so why should our children be any different?  The thing about that day for me was not that my sister wasn't with us (she would tell you it was-insert huge smile)- it was just that I got to be a person with just my parents- to be honest who knows if I ever had any time like that again with both of them.

I've heard many times that parents feel guilty if they are going to do something with one child without the presence of the other or others.  Feeling guilty because you are connecting with your children as individuals in unwarranted.  Feel guilty if you don't invest the time to connect with each one.  To be honest, I enjoy one on one time with my kids because I see characteristics shine that I may not always see when we are hanging with the whole family.  Being that they are all separate individuals with personalities that require different things from us... this time spent alone is fruitful for each of us.

One of my kids favorite things to do is just to go have a meal with us alone.  You don't have to break the bank to prove anything to your children, you just have to be present- and that requires time, effort and engagement (put down your cell phone-that's a hard one I know).  We never know which images and memories are going to forever be painted into their minds eye about us and our relationship with them (hopefully it's not my crazy momma self).  I'm certain that my parents have no idea how special that day was to me (shhh don't tell them)- but I treasure it on so many different levels! 

I want my kids to have those dates with me that can place more brush strokes on our canvas of life.  I want them to know that I spent time thinking of just them and planning for a surprise with only them in mind.  The running joke in our home is that each one says that another one is my favorite.  I used to argue and try to convince them that that was just not the case.... I've come to think that maybe there is an evenness that they can recognize (or I'm trying to make myself feel better-which is entirely possible).  I want them to know, the same way I want my spouse to know, that they are valued, treasured and important enough for me to give them my time- not just driving them to activities and back-although that's an act of love all in itself.  I want them to feel special as just themselves, as well as a part of this family- because let's face it- we all need that.  I want them to have date nights- because memories are made in those special times-they are ALL my favorites-even the big adult one!

The Patio at Cafe Brauer

Simply romantic.  Seriously do you want to get away from the craziness (which can be awesome) of the city?  This hidden gem may just be your place to go.  Tucked so close to Lincoln Park Zoo's barn you probably could milk a cow!!  

Even our slow stroll there (we came from the zoo)  screamed of romance and simplicity.  We meandered through gardens of lush flowers and complete beauty.  Color was exploding all around us.  Grab your mates hand and take in the beauty that precedes you entering the patio!!

This is a great place to take advantage of the outdoors.  The patio overlooks a small pond and a garden lined pathway.  Your view of the city will be nothing short of spectacular!  It's like you just got the best seat in the house- and I'm all about that!

This is most definitely a place to have an appetizer and a glass of wine while gazing into each others eyes  (getting a little cheesy on you).

We enjoyed the Calamari.  It was fried but not too heavy (which we really appreciate).  The lemon aoli was fabulous!!!  My guy went straight for the Goose Island Green Line- ON TAP- OH YEAH!!  

Coincidentally, (since we just featured it) I beelined for the Sonoma Cutrer Chardonnay!!  I absolutely love this wine because it's consistent and a great price!! On any menu if I'm not sure about other selections I always feel confident that Sonoma Cutrer is the way to go!

The Patio at Cafe Brauer is a simple and romantic place to go hide in Chicago- on a beautiful day!  It was such a great choice to enjoy a quiet, meaningful conversation. Being a pseudo country girl- I appreciated the serene beauty set apart from the city spice! On your next date day surprise your mate with a stroll to this sweet spot!  

Mauritson and Me...

I arrive at Midway 45 minutes before my flight, per usual. The security guard is shaking his head at me rummaging through my messy purse trying to find my passport. By the time I get on the plane I am sweaty from lugging my overstuffed carry-on, which is holding 4 pairs of shoes for my 3 day trip. Upon arrival in Toronto, I run to the airport bathroom to put on my makeup and change into my dress for the night. From there I hop in a cab to meet Tyler and his friends for a night on the town.

This is usually how my trips go when visiting Ty. Its a crazy weekend of fun and catching up with loved ones that always ends too soon. We have a blast together with our friends and family, but rarely get alone time to just BE. Something I am learning in our relationship is that it is so so important for us to step away from the craziness and really connect with each other on a deeper level. Sometimes this may be on a fancy date in a quiet restaurant, and sometimes it could just be on a long car ride, which honestly is some of my FAVORITE times with my guy. If you want to test your relationship, try driving from Toronto to Chicago in the middle of January, IN A BLIZZARD. For me, finding a balance of family/friend time and alone time is imperative to surviving this long distance relationship. 

WEEK THREE

This week, Ty and I decided to go out for our wine tasting adventure. We chose a quiet little wine bar and split a bottle of Mauritson 2012 Zinfandel. This wine was…. sexy! The dark plum color of the wine mixed with the dim lighting in this empty restaurant had romance written all over it.

This wines blackberry, raspberry jam fragrance was smooth on the palate. It had a great balance of dark fruit juiciness and dry acidity that lingered on my tongue. It was soft enough for me to sip on all night, and full-bodied enough to keep Tyler interested. This Zin was lighter and less smokey than others I have tasted, so if you are just beginning to get into different wines like myself, this could be a perfect option for you.  

 Bottom line... romantic, full bodied -and full mouth of berry deliciousness added to this date night's sweet spot!!  A velvety elegance is what we were looking for and Mauritson nailed it!! 

Prayer

My slope is always slippery... mostly because I have no filter and long ago I realized I couldn't be the presidents wife... I talk too much (but don't tell my middle son-he gets it from me- we are always asking him to be quiet). I'm not funny, I have no amazing talent, I weigh a little too much, I'm short (the list goes on) but I can talk.  So when I believe in something... I WEAR IT... I SCREAM IT.. I OWN IT...

READY FOR THIS... I PRAY.  I WANT TO. I NEED TO.  I HAVE TO.  

When I don't pray for my spouse and my marriage (or when I get lazy in my prayer life) things around these parts get a little hairy.  Now some may call it coincidence, but I'll tell you it's TRUTH.  What I know:  some people go through life trying to go it alone- I'm not capable of that. Marriage is HARD.  Anyone who tells you it's not- probably frequents Colorado to partake in their "legal recreations."  Personally I need all the help I can get- and that means my prayer life needs to be intentional and specific.  (I'm not dumbing down my faith or my marriage- I'm being me.. so try not to read too much into my silliness.)

Specifically, I spend more time praying for my husbands heart, head, career and person than I probably do any other being in my life- including my children (eek I just said that out loud- and I don't feel guilty about it).  I KNOW that in order for them to be ok we must be ok and that requires time and effort on my part-talking to the big guy about MY guy!  I know this is completely counter-culture to focus so hard on your spouse and take the focus off of YOU (I guess I kind of beat that counter-culture drum anyway-YIKES) but I'm here to tell you that it's not only worth it- it's necessary.

When I get up in the morning- if I've pressed snooze- which I never used to do but getting older changes you- I hit the ground running.  I am a planner.  I write everything down and LOVE LOVE LOVE checkmarks... the more I have in a day... the better off I am!!  I digress... So if I hit the ground running and have had no quiet time.. my day is already starting a little off kilter.  My marriage does better when I am intentionally praying over HIM, over us.  That requires my time.  

I hear excuses all the time.. most of it is "I don't have the time."  I'm going to push back HARD on that... You don't NOT have the time.  Truthfully my prayer time makes our date nights better.  Have you ever been so stinkin' mad at someone?  You had a whole conversation- in your head (again could be just me- if it is- good for you) -you were going to let them have it.  You see them and they reach out and say, "I'm sorry."  INSTANTLY BAM- everything just changed.  What if that was your EVERY DAY? One of the best quotes on prayer I've read is by Oswald Chambers in My Utmost for His Highest Daily Devotions "God has established things so that prayer on the basis of redemption, changes the way a person looks at things. Prayer is not a matter of changing things externally, but one of working miracles in a persons inner nature."  (WOW THAT GOT DEEP!)  I'm calmer, more focused and centered when my prayers are going up- instead of my mouth opening up in the wrong direction!  This creates (most of the time- insert huge grin) a calmer more pleasant environment because I've already dealt with whatever ails me with the guy...so my guy gets the better me!!  Hence- date nights can be more Barry White like... Can't get enough of your love, babe!

GT OYSTER BAR

Men and Fish are alike.  They both get into trouble when they open their mouth.                Author Unknown

Don't have to ask me twice- I'm obsessed with this place-they had me at the quote on the wall (above). First of all if you're having oysters with your mate...seriously sexy!! (We all know what oysters are- if you don't look it up- GOOD STUFF.) This place raises the bar!  From the moment you walk in the door you know you are in for some killer goodness!!  They don't disappoint!

The ascetics in this restaurant are classy and chic!!! The functional wine tower in the middle of the dining room adds beauty and depth.  The black chalkboard wall gives the chic room warmth with the amazing chalk fish.  Holy gorgeous batman.

Shall we talk drinks?  I think we shall.  My hubby had On the Up and Up- fun name- GREAT DRINK.  He tends to lean towards Chartrueise drinks- and this one coupled with a fun basil leaf to finish it off really landed on top!  It's made with La Caravedo Pisco- which is a grape (we are very into our grape based drinks) based white spirit, green chartreuse, lime and of course the basil leaf.  He found it insanely good!  I, of course, chose the wine.  What?  It was a really muggy day.  So, shocker, I ordered the Chardonnay.  It was the Bhueller, 2013 Russian River Chard...So good!!  (I love Sonoma County Chardonnay's!)

Uhm you can't be here and NOT try the oysters.  I mean you could but you would be doing yourself a MAJOR disservice!!  We had 6 of both kinds of the west coast oysters!! Yeah- pretty much the bomb with the mignonette sauce!!

THAI COCONUT SOUP isn't your thing?  Truthfully I don't like coconut HOWEVER..it'll be my thing now!!  The soup was creamy and full of generous shrimp and mussels pieces!!   This may be hard to believe but for a hearty soup...it really had a desirable light quality about it- you must try!!  

Lobster Mac and Cheese-that's like asking a child if they want a cookie-  UHM HECK YEAH!!  It's not my mom's macaronni with hotdogs in it (did your parents do that?) YIKES-but it will have to do-I'm salivating just thinking about it!! It's rich and creamy- filled with huge chunks of lobster and delicious eddamame.... YOU MUST SPLURGE- this will be worth every burpee you have to do later!!!

As you can tell I have a few obsessions- FISH TACOS is up there!! I will specifically look for restaurants any place we go that have FISH TACOS!!  YOU MUST HAVE GT OYSTER BAR'S FISH TACOS if you want to have a happy belly!!  Not only is the fish delicate and delicious- these tacos have all the good fixins'- chipotle aioli and chicharron (which is fried pork crackling) I just said pork- we all know everything is better with pork!!!

So what I'm sayin' is that you want to have a good date right?  (I mean throwing in there that you're eating a natural aphrodisiac-I just made it so you don't have to look it up- may just help your case.)  GT Oyster Bar is a serious must do.....especially for date night!  

Saturday's With Steph- Sonoma Cutrer

“The quickest way to acquire self-confidence is to do exactly what you are afraid to do.”

Self-confidence and personal comfort are two things that this weeks guest blog have brought out of me. Writing and putting your thoughts out there, as big or small as they may be, can be very scary without the comfort of a support team. Being the youngest of 5, I am so blessed to have a huge support system around me at all times. Someone is always there to answer my questions and give me valuable advice. However grateful I am for this, I sometimes find myself relying too much on the knowledge of others, rather than trusting my gut. I have to remind myself that what I am feeling is valuable and it’s OK if I change my mind along the way. We are all learning as we go, and that’s kind of a beautiful thing! 

Where am I going with this??-- WINE! I was given a wine journal as a gift  when I first started to become more interested in nice wine (not the boxed “wine” that got me through college.... HOLY HEADACHE). In this journal, you are supposed to write tasting notes. Until recently I hadn’t written in it, mainly out of fear that what I was tasting was “wrong” or that I didn’t yet know enough. It took doing this guest blog to realize that the “yet” was the key. We all start somewhere! 

WEEK TWO- Sonoma-Cutrer 

This week Ty and I picked out another chardonnay, Sonoma-Cutrer 2013 Sonoma Coast Chardonnay. We decided to make a game out of this and write down the first 5 things that came to mind after tasting. Without knowing, we both came up with the following:

Apple

Pear

Citrus/Lemon

Toasted nuts/ Toasty 

Butterscotch 

This medium-bodied California chardonnay is easy to drink, and gives that warm toasty finish that I personally love so much. The crisp bright fruit flavors make this wine perfect for a hot summer day by the pool, but the warm, oaky finish also makes it great for an at home date night with a blanket and movies... and candles of course. 

Check out Sonoma Cutrer!!  

Cheers!